Everyone

—–AVIDHA GOSWAMI

Ever since I grew up, I mean, during that time when  I became a teenager,at that time an entity was working in me which was the essence of being good to everyone,which remained in me until a few days ago.

Everyone  means those,  who knows me, to whom I know, to my classmates, to my friends, and so on . To them I would give my 100 percent, just to be good to them.

If those people said something good or bad to me, I would never say anything in response even if I was in pain.I used to say sorries even if the other person was wrong.
The other person doesn’t like me,  after knowing that, I would treat them so well days after days .. only in this hope that one day they will start liking me.
I tried to replied to their messages in 1 second and I also tried to please them with as sweet a reply as possible.
  
But I never succeeded in that way,at the end of the day I could never be so worthy to everyonene. I don’t know  why?
I don’t really know why I was desperate to get specious to everyone.

One day a friend of mine named Nayana told me a valuable thing, she said “a man cannot be good to everyone in his one short life, this effort is completely bootless”. Although I did not  understand the meaning of this in that day , but now  I can understand it very well .

I realised.

You can’t be everyone’s cup of tea,
not everyone will appreciate you, not everyone will find your jokes funny, not everyone understands your kindness ,
not everyone’s  behaviour  always will  be better  for you,not everyone will find your reactions to things as the appropriate proportions, that’s fine and normal and that’s actually okay.

You will never be the everyone’s favorite  in this vast world.

People must eradicate the need to please and be liked by everyone . We are different universes and we have different lenses to beauty and normalcy .
Here everyone have their own things,own  personalities, own specialities.

So …..what? What if someone doesn’t like you? Others certainly do. What if you don’t like someone? You certainly like some other ones.
We have to stop associating the concept of worthiness and value of a person with how many people like them.

I don’t know how much I have changed this cosmos of mine,or  how much I can change It in the future ..but I trying so hard.

In this diverse world ,we  can’t change us  exactly the  same  way they need and also here again, not everyone wants the same. So it’s better to don’t try it,because you never be able to make happy to whole world.

The most valuable thing I have realized is that … to whom you are good now, you will be good for him/her for lifetime,for this you haven’t to give any efforts or else.

So you have to be free.

Be you.

You don’t need be in anybody’s good books. Just be a decent human being. That’s enough.

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———-For this article ,I was inspired by minarevaa’s thoughts from Aesthetic blossoms fb page.

STAY SAFE

BE HAPPY

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